Archive | My writing life

Image of stick people holding hands on top of green mountain filled with stars, from I am Not Always Kind, by Beth Mende Conny

I am not always kind

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! I am not always kind. I can be grouchy and not yield to merging traffic. I don’t call my mother as often as I should and don’t always thank supermarket baggers. I kill ants and find flaws […]

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Image of thermometer from the 80/20 Principle of the Heart, by Beth Mende Conny

The 80/20 principle of the heart

Yesterday I woke with a warm heart. Do you know what I mean? You get out of bed without thinking you’re not good enough, that, yeah, you look in the mirror and your hair’s a mess and you really should exercise, but that you’re okay anyway. One of those days when you lay claim to 80 percent of yourself and say, “Not bad. I can work with this.” When I wake/feel 80 percent, I care […]

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Anita in silk strapless smoking cigar, from My Glamorous Aunt Anita, by Beth Mende Conny

My glamorous Aunt Anita

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! My wonderful and very glamorous Aunt Anita passed away on Thanksgiving day. She was in her early 80s. I couldn’t make it out to Las Vegas to say goodbye, but I wrote this letter to her, which […]

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Bright diagonal row of makeup vials from My Makeup Makeover, by Beth Mende Conny

My makeup makeover

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! So here I am  at the cosmetics store Sephora with my 20-year-old daughter, Jenna, who has brought me here to get a new look. “What’s wrong with my look?” I want to ask, but I know better because she’ll tell me. I’m […]

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Cover of Cliff's Notes for The Age of Innocence, from Into the Silence, by Beth Mende Conny

Into the silence

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! We cry out from the get-go. It is our very first act of being. We go from fluid warm darkness into a bright, sharp world filled with sounds and smells and warm hands on bodies we do […]

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Not guilty

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! Guilt. To be a mother is to suffer from it. But how much suffering is enough? Take this quiz and find out. Simply the circle the responses that best apply to you. Question #1 — While shopping at […]

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Image of the common bean from Girls this is how I met your father, by Beth Mende Conny

Girls—this is how I met your father…

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! College. February. Best friend’s birthday party in a Chinese restaurant in downtown Binghamton, New York. Huge oval table and Madge is assigning seats. I see a cute guy sitting at the far end of table. I lean […]

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Image of sun breaking through clouds, from Nirvana, by Beth Mende Conny

Nirvana

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! Saw the doctor this week and it’s official: I’m sick. Some viral crap. But sick is for other people. I have too much to do. I noted this to my husband and he got ticked. “There’s nothing […]

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Image of green money plant in front of open white window

The open window

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! Ah, the first true sign of Spring: I open a window. Not wide; the morning has a bite to it. But the sun is up, the sky is clear and I can feel the planet shift toward […]

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Image of Babu, from Writing is a Heartache, by Beth Mende Conny

Cold Cuts, Pastries, Funerals

I’m often asked what it’s like to be a writer — how I spend my days, how I experience the world. And so I will be sharing occasional essays from the front lines of my writing life. Enjoy! When I was a kid, funerals were my favorite gatherings. Strangers would appear at the door, bearing platters of smartly folded cold cuts and pretty pink boxes of pastries. When they heard I was Judy’s girl, they’d […]

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